Are You the Weakest Link?
A few days ago, I had the opportunity to describe to a gentleman my thoughts on weak women and general reasons for my observations. I feel as if I am qualified to assess this type of personality because I am coming in from a vantage point of a former weak woman. I learned a LOT of lessons over the years. But only when I had made up my mind that I'd had ENOUGH of being the weak, co-dependent woman that I was. I was pathetic and had gotten sick and tired of being sick and tired of who I had become. And trust me, if you're seeing yourself being described in this post, PLEASE know that NOTHING at all will change for the better until YOU take charge of your own life and be decisive in taking back your self respect and your identity!
First of all, I'd like to suggest that you sit down in a quiet place and have a meeting with yourself. Allow your mind to freely consider your actions, your responses to others (namely the men/man in your life), and the ways in which you feel that you need to take quick and effective action to get "yourself" back. Have you been making sacrifices to meet the needs of the man in your life? Have you given up your dreams to please him? Have you abandoned your personal integrity and values to keep him? And, do you more often than not defer to him rather than exert your own thoughts and opinions?
Here are my thoughts summed up on what I see in a weak woman.
* Depending on his money rather than make your own
* Putting him first in your life instead of putting GOD first
* Shacking up with him for years waiting...waiting on him to make up his mind to marry you
* Continuing to have children (and giving them his last name ) does NOT make the situation right
* Allowing him to dominate you and your life
* Putting faith in "the new normal" of the world instead of in GOD
* Staying with him for sex (cause you think you can't live without it)
* Falling for his so-called charm and his compliments, etc.
YOU are better than this. YOU deserve better than this. YOU can do better than this. Your future is at stake and you are of more value to GOD than you think you are. Stand up and be strong. Tell that joker that you're catching a new train and if he wants to ride with you then he'll have to accept the NEW you or he can just plan on getting off at the nearest stop! YOU don't have room for loser baggage. And any guy/man who treats his woman in this way, or doesn't encourage her or at least be completely honest with her; well...then he is a LOSER and you. do. not. need. him!
I hope that no one will take offense but rather than take offense, you will consider your present lifestyle choices and give them a full and complete evaluation so you can come to terms with the situation you're in, and make the necessary changes!
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