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Showing posts with label Love between a man and a woman. Show all posts
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Monday, January 28, 2013

Down the Up Staircase

Within the space of a few minutes; five at the very most...all of the plans, the hard work, the anticipation, the pride in her first major accomplishment vanished. Like the ashes from a slow burning cigarette her dreams went up in smoke. Or like wisps of a fine vapor may be a more accurate description. But any way you sliced it, her world and her state of mind had turned upside down sideways...like it had stopped turning on its circular axis, and stopped on a tilted angle.

Her phone had rang as she started up the staircase, and she answered it with the same upbeat and happy tone of voice that mimicked the way she was already feeling inside. When she got the news, she sat down on the step, and she didn't remember actually ending the call. She only knew that for so long a time she had sat there on the same step where she had sank after receiving the call. Her mind was a blank for a while, and she sat staring at nothing; her eyes focused but not seeing.

The phone call had been from Abigail Vanderberry her bride-to-be. Abigail had informed her in a matter of fact way that there would be no wedding taking place for her. She had called it off in a brief conversation just prior to making the call to Alexis with her now ex-groom Bryce Meyers. The fact that Abigail was so calm and controlled was in itself chilling. She had shown no sadness, no remorse and no ; well...emotion at all. She had simply made the statement that the wedding was off. She did however, answer one question that Alexis had managed to ask her before she became completely stunned, and that question was 'What happened?' to which Abigail had spoken in an almost disembodied voice "because he's dead, and I killed him".

When Alexis heard these words, she came within a hair of passing out completely. Instead, she simply sat there in a semi-catatonic state. Minutes passed and finally, Alexis came back to her senses. Her breathing was shallow, and there was an intense pain behind her eyes that was not only hurting like hell, but was causing her vision to blur.   At last, she tried to stand by bracing her hands on either side of her. She did stand up, but when she started to move she discovered that her limbs were numb from sitting for so long. Holding onto the banister for support, she steadied herself, and took several deep breaths to restore her normal breathing rhythm.

But she couldn't decide whether to go the rest of the way upstairs, or to go back down the staircase.
She stood there hesitating and her cell phone rang again. She looked down at the phone still in her hand as if she held a foreign object in her hand. While she stood hesitating, the ringing stopped before she could even look at the caller ID display. It immediately rang again, but this time she did press the talk button and in doing so, it was like spurning herself into motion. She went back down the staircase as she spoke into her phone. It was one of her best friends on the other end...Claudette Richardson.

Claudette was calling to check on her and to make sure her anxiousness hadn't taken over her and to get all of the last-minute details about the Vanderberry-Meyers shindig. Immediately, Claudette could tell something was terribly off key here. She had to call Alexis' name at least three times before she was sure Alexis was actually there. She held on and listened in silence as she received the update she was calling to receive although it was definitely NOT the content she had expected.

After Alexis had relayed all of the information that Abigail had shared with her, she suddenly remembered something, and spoke it out loud...Oh my God! What should I do? I've just been the recipient of a murder confession; should I call the police? Claude...what should I do?

Stay tuned.

Friday, May 11, 2012

Ask Dr. Sherry: "I'm Most Attracted to White Men But My Family Doesn't Approve" | Essence.com

Ask Dr. Sherry: "I'm Most Attracted to White Men But My Family Doesn't Approve" | Essence.com

Ask Dr. Sherry: 'I'm Most Attracted to White Men But My Family Doesn't Approve'


Ask Dr. Sherry: "I'm Most Attracted to White Men But My Family Doesn't Approve"
You've seen celebrity clinical psychologist Dr. Sherry Blake, author of The Single Married Woman: True Stories of Why Women Feel All Alone In Their Marriages, keep the Braxton sisters calm on the hit show Braxton Family Values, and now it's your turn to sit in her chair...

Q: “Dr. Sherry, I'm an African-American woman who has always been most attracted to White guys. I've never actually dated one because I feel as though my friends and family would not approve and would give me hell about it. I'm turning 30 this year and I want to get serious about love and marriage. I would like to try dating the kind of men who really turn me on — men of all races – not just Black men. Help me!" – Riley

A: Riley, at the age of 30, you are “good and grown” and should date whomever you like — regardless of race. Of course, other people may have problems with the fact that you have “been most attracted to White guys," but that is their issue, not yours. Keep in mind that your family and friends have a right to not like the fact that you are interested in White men. You are right — they are likely to give you a hard time and think that you have absolutely lost it. (Just be prepared for the “snowflake” or “down with the swirl” jokes.) After your family and friends have calmed down, they may or may not approve of your relationship. However, are you actually looking for their approval? They may never fully accept your choice but it is your choice.

If you are comfortable with being in an interracial relationship and can deal with all that comes with it, do not allow others to spoil your possibility for happiness. Given that you have never actually dated a White man, you have to determine what your expectations are. You must also ask yourself if you are “writing off” Black men because of some bad experiences you may have had in your life. Many women are disappointed because they have high hopes that men of another race will be different from their own. When in fact, they find out there are many similar characteristics... good, bad and ugly! You should be careful to avoid buying into stereotypical views of dating men of other races. If you are running from Black men, just beware of where you’re running. Regardless of race, men are men. They all have strengths and weaknesses that have nothing to do with the color of their skin. I would recommend that you date according to the qualities that you want in a man rather than the color of their skin. Bottom line, it is all about your happiness and what you want. — Dr. Sherry


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